If you happen to be one of those parents with a rebellious kid, please take heart. God knows what you really are going through. In truth, He told us how to deal with this dilemma in the story of the prodigal son in Luke 15, which shows us that even God - a perfect Father - has youngsters who rebel. But notice He is not having a panic attack, nor is He beating himself up, You should not either.
If that you are in the midst of your son or daughter's rebellion, here are some things to help you through this trend.
1. Utilise the power of prayer.
We're able to help prepare the young person's heart, yet it is God who is going to transform it. Pray for your child every day, and don't be embarrassed to bring in others to pray for him.
2. Request for his forgiveness for ways you may have failed him.
Get rid off any obstacle that would block him from moving toward forgiveness himself.
3. Let negative effects do their work.
To the best of your means, let him face the results of his judgements. Resist the urge to intervene; you won't want to stop the process of repentance.
4. Check out the Bible.
In some cases the line gets hairy between maintaining a tender heart and allowing repercussions to happen. This is when you need to lean on God for divine wisdom. James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it can be given to him."
5. Don't add indignation to his rebellion.
Preserve all lines of communication open. Enjoy interaction with him beyond your times you are forced to manage his rebellious attitude. Provide him with plenty of reasons to believe you not only still love him, but enjoy his company and still have confidence in his future.
6. Never let your rebellious child destroy your other relationships.
In some cases rebellion requires that you put guidelines in your life so the situation doesn't detrimentally affect your other children or your union.
7. Be sure the rebel knows he has space to repent.
He needs to believe your door is always open. Like the prodigal, your rebellious child must have confidence that if or when he comes to his senses, you do have a place for him at your table, and in your heart.
8. Be inclined for God to use you to help people.
Be readily available to help other folks going through equivalent problems. As 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 reminds us, "Praise be to the God and Father who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have obtained from God."
9. Make your life more engaging.
Supply the prodigal a motive to want to turn around. You do not want to exemplify the things that may have turned him off to faith. Show him what a lively grace-based faith looks like. Don't be distracted with persuasive him that Christians are right. Instead, demonstrate that Christians are good. Let him see that within your goodness is an overpowering capacity to forgive him when he finally gets tired of running from God.
10. Don't toss in the towel.
You will never know when someone's heart will turn around.
Here is a good prayer for parents with kids:
Most loving Father, the example of parenthood, teach us what to give
and what to withhold. Show us when to reprove and when to praise.
Make us gentle and considerate yet firm and watchful.
Keep us from weak indulgence, or from great severity.
Give us the courage to be disliked sometimes by our children,
when we must do necessary things which are displeasing to their eyes.
Give us the imagination to enter into their world
in order to understand and guide them.
Give us all the virtues we need to lead them by word and example
in the path of righteousness.
Amen.
Thank you and God bless!
To read more about this and other Christian Counseling related subjects such as daily prayers, life coaching, Christian marriage counseling among others, please visit my blog at http://www.blessmenetwork.org/christian-counseling-blog/ It's a free resource me and my Christian colleagues at Bless Me Network actively participate and would love to hear your feedback or topic ideas.
What is Bless Me Network? We provide Christian counseling and spiritual guidance with a level of convenience and confidentiality that has never existed before. We have developed a network of highly trained ordained ministers and priests who specialize in Christian counseling, family counseling, pastoral counseling, bible counseling, among others. You can easily speak with our trusted counselors by dialing our toll free telephone number 1-888-925-3776. To learn more visit us at http://www.blessmenetwork.com
By John Hartford
If that you are in the midst of your son or daughter's rebellion, here are some things to help you through this trend.
1. Utilise the power of prayer.
We're able to help prepare the young person's heart, yet it is God who is going to transform it. Pray for your child every day, and don't be embarrassed to bring in others to pray for him.
2. Request for his forgiveness for ways you may have failed him.
Get rid off any obstacle that would block him from moving toward forgiveness himself.
3. Let negative effects do their work.
To the best of your means, let him face the results of his judgements. Resist the urge to intervene; you won't want to stop the process of repentance.
4. Check out the Bible.
In some cases the line gets hairy between maintaining a tender heart and allowing repercussions to happen. This is when you need to lean on God for divine wisdom. James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it can be given to him."
5. Don't add indignation to his rebellion.
Preserve all lines of communication open. Enjoy interaction with him beyond your times you are forced to manage his rebellious attitude. Provide him with plenty of reasons to believe you not only still love him, but enjoy his company and still have confidence in his future.
6. Never let your rebellious child destroy your other relationships.
In some cases rebellion requires that you put guidelines in your life so the situation doesn't detrimentally affect your other children or your union.
7. Be sure the rebel knows he has space to repent.
He needs to believe your door is always open. Like the prodigal, your rebellious child must have confidence that if or when he comes to his senses, you do have a place for him at your table, and in your heart.
8. Be inclined for God to use you to help people.
Be readily available to help other folks going through equivalent problems. As 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 reminds us, "Praise be to the God and Father who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have obtained from God."
9. Make your life more engaging.
Supply the prodigal a motive to want to turn around. You do not want to exemplify the things that may have turned him off to faith. Show him what a lively grace-based faith looks like. Don't be distracted with persuasive him that Christians are right. Instead, demonstrate that Christians are good. Let him see that within your goodness is an overpowering capacity to forgive him when he finally gets tired of running from God.
10. Don't toss in the towel.
You will never know when someone's heart will turn around.
Here is a good prayer for parents with kids:
Most loving Father, the example of parenthood, teach us what to give
and what to withhold. Show us when to reprove and when to praise.
Make us gentle and considerate yet firm and watchful.
Keep us from weak indulgence, or from great severity.
Give us the courage to be disliked sometimes by our children,
when we must do necessary things which are displeasing to their eyes.
Give us the imagination to enter into their world
in order to understand and guide them.
Give us all the virtues we need to lead them by word and example
in the path of righteousness.
Amen.
Thank you and God bless!
To read more about this and other Christian Counseling related subjects such as daily prayers, life coaching, Christian marriage counseling among others, please visit my blog at http://www.blessmenetwork.org/christian-counseling-blog/ It's a free resource me and my Christian colleagues at Bless Me Network actively participate and would love to hear your feedback or topic ideas.
What is Bless Me Network? We provide Christian counseling and spiritual guidance with a level of convenience and confidentiality that has never existed before. We have developed a network of highly trained ordained ministers and priests who specialize in Christian counseling, family counseling, pastoral counseling, bible counseling, among others. You can easily speak with our trusted counselors by dialing our toll free telephone number 1-888-925-3776. To learn more visit us at http://www.blessmenetwork.com
By John Hartford
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