By Vimala Seetharaman
Managing a difficult teen need not be as impossible a task as you may think. Respect your teen enough to listen to him and acknowledge his right to have his own views and opinions. You can bond with your difficult teen better by showing love and respect, and help him grow into a confident and responsible adult.
Listen to Your Teen
More often all a teen needs is a parent with a patient ear. When your teen says something, listen to her ideas, suggestions or opinions without dismissing them as unimportant. Give rapt attention without interrupting when your teen is speaking.
Listening to your teen is important to let him know that you value his opinions and decisions, which builds his self-esteem and makes him feel secure with himself and his parents. The more you listen to your teen, the greater are the chances of developing a positive relationship with him.
Avoid Being Judgmental
It's important not to stick to one's own opinion of things when handling a troubled teen. It's alright to have views that disagree with that of your teen's, but avoid stressing that your thinking is right. Try to accept your teen for what she is without attempting to force your views on her.
By ceasing to judge, you become more open-minded and compassionate. You'll create an atmosphere where your teen will not be afraid to come and discuss about his thoughts and feelings with you openly. This atmosphere is crucial to build a trusting and respectful relationship with your teen.
Avoid Lectures and Advices
You go nowhere in disciplining your teen with lectures and demands. Demands reflect controlling and dominating behavior, which is most likely to make your teen more rebellious. Instead, use a respectful yet authoritative tone when you want to send across a message to your teen, such as "I would expect a matured individual like you to be more organized with your projects."
Look for Signs and Symptoms
Certain behaviors serve as indicators that your teen needs help. Is he becoming increasingly remote and isolated? Has her performance at school dropped? Anxious behaviors, extreme dieting, suicidal tendencies and violent outbursts, and low self-esteem are other crucial signs to watch out for.
Seek Expert Help
Seek the professional help of your teen's school counselor, a psychologist or even a social worker to help you help your troubled teen. Seek referrals from your family physician when looking for professional experts.
Teens want the respect of their parents as much as their love and affection. Letting go of your egos, broadening your minds and allowing more parent-teen communication are fundamental to developing a loving parent-teen relationship.
Managing a difficult teen need not be as impossible a task as you may think. Respect your teen enough to listen to him and acknowledge his right to have his own views and opinions. You can bond with your difficult teen better by showing love and respect, and help him grow into a confident and responsible adult.
Listen to Your Teen
More often all a teen needs is a parent with a patient ear. When your teen says something, listen to her ideas, suggestions or opinions without dismissing them as unimportant. Give rapt attention without interrupting when your teen is speaking.
Listening to your teen is important to let him know that you value his opinions and decisions, which builds his self-esteem and makes him feel secure with himself and his parents. The more you listen to your teen, the greater are the chances of developing a positive relationship with him.
Avoid Being Judgmental
It's important not to stick to one's own opinion of things when handling a troubled teen. It's alright to have views that disagree with that of your teen's, but avoid stressing that your thinking is right. Try to accept your teen for what she is without attempting to force your views on her.
By ceasing to judge, you become more open-minded and compassionate. You'll create an atmosphere where your teen will not be afraid to come and discuss about his thoughts and feelings with you openly. This atmosphere is crucial to build a trusting and respectful relationship with your teen.
Avoid Lectures and Advices
You go nowhere in disciplining your teen with lectures and demands. Demands reflect controlling and dominating behavior, which is most likely to make your teen more rebellious. Instead, use a respectful yet authoritative tone when you want to send across a message to your teen, such as "I would expect a matured individual like you to be more organized with your projects."
Look for Signs and Symptoms
Certain behaviors serve as indicators that your teen needs help. Is he becoming increasingly remote and isolated? Has her performance at school dropped? Anxious behaviors, extreme dieting, suicidal tendencies and violent outbursts, and low self-esteem are other crucial signs to watch out for.
Seek Expert Help
Seek the professional help of your teen's school counselor, a psychologist or even a social worker to help you help your troubled teen. Seek referrals from your family physician when looking for professional experts.
Teens want the respect of their parents as much as their love and affection. Letting go of your egos, broadening your minds and allowing more parent-teen communication are fundamental to developing a loving parent-teen relationship.
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