By Catherine Joan Riley
Should you pay a tutor to get your child through that crucial scholarship or entrance exam? Before you commit your hard earned cash read how we got our son through his exam without spending a penny on a tutor.
We are terribly lucky here in Calderdale to have access to 2 fantastic FREE Grammar schools which are among the best in the country.
Most places they were abolished a generation ago.
Competition for places is stiff - over 900 10 & 11 year olds compete for 310 places each year and it's not only local children. With fees for private schools nudging 10,000 pa, free Grammar schools are increasingly attractive and parents are prepared to have their children travel up to 50 miles to get a free place.
We live less than 1 mile from one of these rare treasures and not being flush enough to consider paid places we set out on a mission to make sure our son was able to earn a place.
It was frightening to find out a year before the admissions entrance exam that many parents had been employing out of school tutors for several years. Our son had been plodding along quite happily at school with a little homework help from me and his dad but nothing to really write home about.
Heck he was going to have to run to simply catch up!
Web searches of local tutors left us shocked at the cost. 25 on hour seemed to be the average cost with 2 hours per week being recommended. No way did we have a spare 50 a week even as an investment in our sons future. Also, it didn't seem to us that 2 hours per week would actually make that much difference.
So, we joined an 11+ website and started to research which practice papers were the best to prepare Nathan for the biggest hurdle he has faced in his young life and invested a few pounds in them.
His early attempts were pretty average and it was clear he was going to need lots of practice to get up to the high standard needed.
The real encouraging factor for us though was that he WANTED to study and to do well and pass the exam because he desperately wanted to go to one of the Grammar schools.
So, heartened by his enthusiasm and willingness to work we set out on the road of tutoring him ourselves. I say we but actually hubby did 99% of everything. He researched the questions, sat with Nathan while he did the practice papers then painstakingly went through every question te reinforce the learning experience.
They started in the summer - even studying while we were on holiday! Gradually Nathan built up to doing practice papers every evening after finishing his homework - he drove the pace himself but it was still 6 months of intense concentrated effort and not every 10 year old is capable of that kind of dedication. We are proud that Nathan was prepared and able to back his strong desire to succeed with the hard work that was needed.
The 2 schools run a pretest or practice exam just 8 weeks before the formal entrance exam and this was a good benchmark. Nathan has never sat an exam before so after lots of pep talks on technique and staying calm and in the zone I left him at the exam room door and collected him 3 hours later. As predicted kids had been crying and even being sick with the stress so I was relieved that he came through it relatively calm. Didn't finish the questions though which is a cardinal sin and better learned the hard way in the pretest than the exam itself!
Despite not finishing he got a good mark and finished in the top 25% which gave us a strong indicator that he could succeed in the actual exam. It also gave him and us the impetus to get on with the final push with only 8 weeks to go. With the exception of Friday evenings when he goes to Scouts he studied every single day - sometimes for 2 hours at a time.
The week of the exam we knew he was ready with marks in excess of 95% in both the verbal reasoning and the maths practice papers every time. Of course, it can all go terribly wrong on the day but he was as ready as he could possibly be.
Again, it was my job to deliver him calm and as relaxed as possible to the exam m. calm we succeeded in, relaxed, well that was the impossible dream as he was nervous, but then who wouldn't be faced with such competition.
It was obviously a tough exam as everyone was subdued on leaving. To our horror Nathan had lost track of the time and not finished the verbal reasoning though he had made quick guesses at the answers which is always worthwhile with multiple choice questions! Had he blown it?
310 places, 1000 kids competing? Thats tough odds but not out of the ballpark
So we waited from December 10th until late January for the results, hoping and praying that his best had been good enough!
We expected the results to be landing on our doormat Saturday 21st January. However, I got a phone call from hubby a whole week ahead of the expected day. I sat at my desk with my head in my hands weeping at the result - out of pure joy!!!! Nathan had come 174th out of all the candidates and earned his place at the grammar school.
I am guessing there were a lot of tears shed that day - happy ones from those who had succeeded and devastated ones from those who hadn't.
I am utterly convinced that home tuition for our son for the exam was absolutely the best way for us to go. If we'd taken him to a tutor twice a week you can bet he would have been too tired or not motivated enough to get the best from it. Instead he studied whenever he was ready each evening - and every evening!
I know that many parents are glad that they used a tutor but I am glad that we didn't. We learned more about our son through teaching him ourselves than we could ever have done through a tutor's feedback. he is hardworking and driven - oh and of course clever! But then we knew that already!
Catherine Riley
wife, Mum, digital designer & crysalis
http://www.CatDesignz.wordpress.com
Should you pay a tutor to get your child through that crucial scholarship or entrance exam? Before you commit your hard earned cash read how we got our son through his exam without spending a penny on a tutor.
We are terribly lucky here in Calderdale to have access to 2 fantastic FREE Grammar schools which are among the best in the country.
Most places they were abolished a generation ago.
Competition for places is stiff - over 900 10 & 11 year olds compete for 310 places each year and it's not only local children. With fees for private schools nudging 10,000 pa, free Grammar schools are increasingly attractive and parents are prepared to have their children travel up to 50 miles to get a free place.
We live less than 1 mile from one of these rare treasures and not being flush enough to consider paid places we set out on a mission to make sure our son was able to earn a place.
It was frightening to find out a year before the admissions entrance exam that many parents had been employing out of school tutors for several years. Our son had been plodding along quite happily at school with a little homework help from me and his dad but nothing to really write home about.
Heck he was going to have to run to simply catch up!
Web searches of local tutors left us shocked at the cost. 25 on hour seemed to be the average cost with 2 hours per week being recommended. No way did we have a spare 50 a week even as an investment in our sons future. Also, it didn't seem to us that 2 hours per week would actually make that much difference.
So, we joined an 11+ website and started to research which practice papers were the best to prepare Nathan for the biggest hurdle he has faced in his young life and invested a few pounds in them.
His early attempts were pretty average and it was clear he was going to need lots of practice to get up to the high standard needed.
The real encouraging factor for us though was that he WANTED to study and to do well and pass the exam because he desperately wanted to go to one of the Grammar schools.
So, heartened by his enthusiasm and willingness to work we set out on the road of tutoring him ourselves. I say we but actually hubby did 99% of everything. He researched the questions, sat with Nathan while he did the practice papers then painstakingly went through every question te reinforce the learning experience.
They started in the summer - even studying while we were on holiday! Gradually Nathan built up to doing practice papers every evening after finishing his homework - he drove the pace himself but it was still 6 months of intense concentrated effort and not every 10 year old is capable of that kind of dedication. We are proud that Nathan was prepared and able to back his strong desire to succeed with the hard work that was needed.
The 2 schools run a pretest or practice exam just 8 weeks before the formal entrance exam and this was a good benchmark. Nathan has never sat an exam before so after lots of pep talks on technique and staying calm and in the zone I left him at the exam room door and collected him 3 hours later. As predicted kids had been crying and even being sick with the stress so I was relieved that he came through it relatively calm. Didn't finish the questions though which is a cardinal sin and better learned the hard way in the pretest than the exam itself!
Despite not finishing he got a good mark and finished in the top 25% which gave us a strong indicator that he could succeed in the actual exam. It also gave him and us the impetus to get on with the final push with only 8 weeks to go. With the exception of Friday evenings when he goes to Scouts he studied every single day - sometimes for 2 hours at a time.
The week of the exam we knew he was ready with marks in excess of 95% in both the verbal reasoning and the maths practice papers every time. Of course, it can all go terribly wrong on the day but he was as ready as he could possibly be.
Again, it was my job to deliver him calm and as relaxed as possible to the exam m. calm we succeeded in, relaxed, well that was the impossible dream as he was nervous, but then who wouldn't be faced with such competition.
It was obviously a tough exam as everyone was subdued on leaving. To our horror Nathan had lost track of the time and not finished the verbal reasoning though he had made quick guesses at the answers which is always worthwhile with multiple choice questions! Had he blown it?
310 places, 1000 kids competing? Thats tough odds but not out of the ballpark
So we waited from December 10th until late January for the results, hoping and praying that his best had been good enough!
We expected the results to be landing on our doormat Saturday 21st January. However, I got a phone call from hubby a whole week ahead of the expected day. I sat at my desk with my head in my hands weeping at the result - out of pure joy!!!! Nathan had come 174th out of all the candidates and earned his place at the grammar school.
I am guessing there were a lot of tears shed that day - happy ones from those who had succeeded and devastated ones from those who hadn't.
I am utterly convinced that home tuition for our son for the exam was absolutely the best way for us to go. If we'd taken him to a tutor twice a week you can bet he would have been too tired or not motivated enough to get the best from it. Instead he studied whenever he was ready each evening - and every evening!
I know that many parents are glad that they used a tutor but I am glad that we didn't. We learned more about our son through teaching him ourselves than we could ever have done through a tutor's feedback. he is hardworking and driven - oh and of course clever! But then we knew that already!
Catherine Riley
wife, Mum, digital designer & crysalis
http://www.CatDesignz.wordpress.com
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